My Journey: From Narcissistic Abuse to Boundaries Expertise

I didn't set out to become a boundaries specialist—I was forced to become one.

After years in a toxic relationship I didn't fully recognize as abusive, I found myself facing a harsh reality I was in no way prepared for: post-separation abuse, the shattering awareness that things I believed to be true were lies, a loss of practically everything I'd built and nearly everyone I thought loved and supported me, and the very real and urgent need to protect myself and my children while still navigating ongoing contact with someone determined to cause harm. 

I searched desperately for practical guidance on HOW to set boundaries that actually work with someone who has no intention of respecting them. HOW to parallel parent safely with a toxic co-parent. HOW to survive and rebuild when traditional boundary advice simply doesn't work. 

Why Traditional Boundary Advice Doesn't Work with Narcissists & Toxic People

I found plenty of resources explaining WHY toxic people behave the way they do, but almost nothing on WHAT TO DO about it in real, high-stakes, high-conflict situations.

Through trial and error, therapy, pattern recognition, and sheer necessity I tested approaches in my life and circumstances, learned what worked and what didn't, and developed practical formulas for setting firm boundaries with challenging personalities. Not theories but actual survival strategies proven in real time—because that's what I needed.

How I Help Women Set Boundaries with Toxic People

As I established real working boundaries and healed and transformed my own life, other women began reaching out for help. After witnessing many women struggle as I had, it became abundantly clear I needed to teach what I'd discovered. So I began sharing what I'd learned on social media. That's how Boundary Up was born.

Today, I reach over 500,000 women across platforms, and my work has helped hundreds of thousands identify manipulation patterns and set boundaries that radically transformed their lives. I've developed signature tools, classes, and frameworks specifically designed for the unique challenges of dealing with toxic and narcissistic people—because I know firsthand how general and generic boundary advice falls short in these situations.

I, along with hundreds of personal clients, am living proof that you can break free from toxic dynamics, establish boundaries that work with challenging personalities, and most importantly, build a life of peace, authenticity, and happiness—and I'm here to show you exactly how.

Welcome. Now, let's Boundary Up!